What to Do When People Don't Like You? Nothing!

What to Do When People Don't Like You? Nothing!

I was analyzing the behavior a male checker I have been dealing with a long time today. I had my first conversation with him the other day, and I always thought he didn’t like me.

I thought the conversation went ok, but today when I analyzed it in fine detail and looked for the pattern, I figured out that he still doesn’t like me and he was communicating that in the conversation.

It was a depressing revelation but I think next time I won’t talk to him at all. Turns out I was right all along.

The problem here is that we are optimists, and there’s a part of us I call the subconscious cope that keeps trying to tell us that everyone likes us even when it’s quite clear that they don’t.

The cope exists because it’s very insulting and depressing to realize that someone - anyone - doesn’t like you.

The implication is that you’re something wrong, and it implies that you weren’t so damned…whatever…they might like you. So you have to agree that you a…